Real talk for couples married thirty years and counting
Arguments, apologies, listening and the everyday skills that keep two people on the same side.
Snoring, cabinet doors left open, stories told for the fifth time. After over thirty years together we have plenty of small habits that drive each other a little crazy. Here is how we keep them small.
After decades together, a plain I am sorry can start to sound like background noise. Here is what we have learned about making an apology land when your spouse has heard every version of it.
Most marriage advice is about what to start doing. Some of the biggest improvements in our own marriage came from quietly letting go of habits that had been wearing us down for years.
After decades together it is easy to finish your spouse's sentences in your head and stop hearing them. Here is how we learned to listen again, even when we were sure we knew the ending.
After over thirty years of marriage, we have learned that a few simple words said at the right moment can stop a small spat from turning into a long cold night. Here are the phrases we lean on most.
For over thirty years we fought about leaving the house on time. We never solved it. What we finally learned is that some arguments are not problems to fix but differences to live with kindly.
That was the line on this site from the very start, and it still is. These days the message is the love that lasts.